Nonfiction Books

  • Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex by Casey Tanner — book cover

    Feel It All: A Therapist’s Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex

    A groundbreaking guide to sexuality that dispels the stale cultural attitudes about sex that leave too many feeling inadequate, and offers an expansive, attachment-based framework to free us and develop bolder, more satisfying relationships with our sexual selves. When it comes to sex, most people feel insecure. But it’s not because we’re deficient; it’s because we’ve been under-resourced and miseducated.Certified sex therapist Casey Tanner argues that our sex lives are a microcosm of every untruth we’ve internalized about gender, sex, relationships, our bodies, and ourselves. Most of us were taught that healthy sexuality is only for a certain kind of person, in a certain kind of relationship, with a certain kind of body. As a result, the way we’ve learned how to define “good sex” is reflective of how good, worthy, and loveable we see ourselves. Sex Therapy is a comprehensive guide to help everyone uncover their personal misconceptions about sexuality and relationships. Tanner helps you recognize and assess your core beliefs surrounding relationships, sexuality, gender, and more; identify past trauma; find pathways to healing that work for you; and redefine sex based on knowledge and possibilities, rather than potential consequences.Comprehensive yet accessible, informative, warm, and nonjudgmental, Feel It All provides a pathway for personal healing, creating stronger relationships, and achieving deeper intimacy.
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  • Stop Letting Everything Affect You: How to Break Free from Overthinking, Emotional Chaos, and Self-Sabotage

    Daniel Chidiac’s short self-help read on emotional reactivity has real value in its guilt and boundary chapters, but its pause-and-choose framework assumes a nervous system that trauma-impacted readers may not have. An honest editorial take with a clinical reading guide.
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  • The Feminist Porn Book edited by Tristan Taormino — essays on feminism and pornography recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure

    What happens when feminists make porn? This essay collection from performers, directors, and scholars answers that question with more nuance and honesty than you’d expect. Academic in places, personal in others, provocative throughout.
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  • Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein — a trans memoir and gender theory book recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us

    Kate Bornstein threw out the gender rulebook in 1994 and it still hasn’t been put back together. Part memoir, part manifesto, part performance art — this one changes how you think.
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