Gender Books

Books about gender identity, gender expression, and the experience of being trans or gender nonconforming. These include workbooks, memoirs, and academic perspectives on what gender means and how people relate to it. If gender is something you are exploring, more about our trans affirming therapy.

  • Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism by Mendes & Maroney — an autism and LGBTQ+ resource recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism
    A collection of first-person narratives from autistic LGBTQIA+ people exploring the intersection of neurodivergence, gender identity, and sexuality, with clinical context and a practical diagnostic framework.
    Read More

  • Raising Them: Our Adventure in Gender Creative Parenting
    Sociologist Kyl Myers documents raising her child Zoomer without a gender assignment — not as a thought experiment, but as a lived account of school forms, family dinners, and strangers who can’t let it go.
    Read More
  • A Queer and Pleasant Danger by Kate Bornstein — an LGBTQ+ affirming resource recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    A Queer and Pleasant Danger: The True Story of a Nice Jewish Boy Who Joins the Church of Scientology and Leaves Twelve Years Later to Become the Lovely Lady She is Today
    Kate Bornstein’s memoir covers twelve years in Scientology, gender transition, the BDSM community, and a letter to her estranged daughter. A brutally honest, often funny account of refusing to stay in any box the world tried to put her in.
    Read More
  • Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein — a trans memoir and gender theory book recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
    Kate Bornstein threw out the gender rulebook in 1994 and it still hasn’t been put back together. Part memoir, part manifesto, part performance art — this one changes how you think.
    Read More
  • Trans Sex by Lucie Fielding — a trans affirming sex therapy resource recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    Trans Sex: Nurturing Trans Erotic Embodiment and Gender-Pleasure in the Body
    The book that redefines trans sexuality as pleasure and possibility, for providers and trans people to cultivate erotic embodiment that loves rather than just lives with trans bodies.
    Read More
  • My Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein — a gender affirming care resource recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely
    An interactive, thought-provoking workbook that turns gender exploration into something playful and personal — with real exercises for figuring out who you are, on your own terms.
    Read More
  • Tomboyland by Melissa Faliveno — an LGBTQ+ identity resource recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    Tomboyland: Essays
    In a world that demands certainty, “Tomboyland” reminds us that our most authentic selves often emerge in the spaces where categories fail us.
    Read More
  • Pageboy by Elliot Page — a trans affirming resource recommended by Blue Canary Psychotherapy

    Pageboy: A Memoir
    Elliot Page’s candid memoir chronicles Hollywood, mental health struggles, and gender transition with an honesty that cuts through the usual celebrity autobiography polish.
    Read More